Friday, July 24, 2015

The Marriage Facade


   I hate this time period in our lives when everything is on the internet. Because Everything is not Truly "Everything".

What we see are peoples lives from a distance. We see the image that they want us to see. We see the truths they want us to believe. 

It's like going on a first date... every day with someone...never getting to know them deeper...but only learning the GOOD. 

But what happened to the good, the bad, and the ugly. 

When it comes to marriage and divorce... with divorce turning into a mundane daily activity... why can we still not share the behind the scenes

When you get married, you are not only making it about you and the other person. Other people are watching you. Other people are invested: your families, your friends, your acquaintances. 

I'm not saying "stay in an unhappy marriage because of someone else" but I am saying that even if you don't want to put your drama on Facebook or any other social media... don't keep posting like everything is just fine. 

What are you saying to the people younger than you? That marriage is easy? That its all fun and then boom one day... it just "doesn't work?" 

I don't feel like those of us getting married are fully equipt to be married when no one is willing to share the hard parts. The ugly Parts. The parts that you have to fight through. Not just the loving sweet parts--which may be few and far in between.

"For when I kept silent,  my bones wasted away. Through my groaning all the day long." Psalm 32:3

If we want to change a habit... or an outcome of generations...than we have to be bold enough to speak aloud what we are keeping silent.

Is a secret really worth keeping if on the inside it is killing you and causing others to have false hope?

The enemy only has power over whats in the dark. It's time we stop giving him that power over our relationships.

There is no healing when there is no honesty.

Message me. I'd love to pray over your relationship or your marriage. There's no shame in asking for help. In fact, when two people can't get through a hard time...remember that a "Three Cord Strand is Not Easily Broken." 

When we withhold talking about the struggles that we go through, we also withhold showing the world how the power of Jesus brought us through them. 

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